15 Signs I Wish I Could Wear Around My Neck as a Stepmom

As a stepmom, there are so many signs I wish I could carry around. Signs to explain to people, who think they know me but don’t know my real story.

If you are a second wife (or third, or fourth!), regardless of having stepchildren or not, you will know exactly my feelings. Having stepchildren only means that the circumference of the vicious web is larger.

We go to athletic events, church, and community gatherings with the intentions of having fun and spending time with our hubbies and families. Only to realize when we get there, that the whispers and eye rolls that are thought to be behind our backs are right in front of our faces-Or so we think.

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Here are a few of the signs I would make and hang around my neck for all to read

  1. I’m not the homewrecker. I didn’t talk, text, date, or sleep with my husband while he was married.

  2. I’m not beating my stepchildren. The bruise on her chin really is from playing soccer, the scratch on her back is from her daily wrestling meets with her sister and the burn on her hand is from her hair straightener.

  3. I never said that I know everything. I just made a suggestion…my mistake.

  4. I don’t scream at her and lock her in her room…ever.

  5. I don’t say horrible things about her mom in front of her….ever.

  6. I don’t buy the other kids things while making her stand there and eat dirt.

  7. I actually DO care about her and want to see her happy and successful.

  8. My husband and I don’t spend our time discussing how we can make his ex-wife miserable.

  9. My husband does pay child support, and I really do want him to take care of his children

  10. I am not a bum. I am a hard worker and have my own passions and goals in life.

  11. I am a good person and, believe it or not, there seriously are other people who like me.

  12. Your mean words and assumptions do hurt because I am human just like you

  13. I will make mistakes

  14. I am a daughter of a mother who loves me

  15. I, too, am a child of God

Now that I got that off my chest, I also have to admit some huge lessons that I have learned over the years.

  • Most likely, people aren’t sitting around talking badly about you. They definitely are there just to watch their daughter play the game too.
  • If we take the step to talk to them, they will talk to you too
  • Most people don't even know about your situation and if they do, they actually don't care because they have their own lives to worry about
  • We tell ourselves stories that aren’t true.
  • Things are better than you allow yourself to think they are.
  • Your actions over time will prove who you are as a human being and stepmom. A silly sign around your neck doesn’t mean anything.
  • Your stepchild gives you more credit than you think.
  • His ex is just scared and protecting her children the only way she knows how to whether or not it's in the most positive way.
  • You are missing your life if you allow yourself to worry about what other people think.
  • It’s hard to hate them if you pray for them

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